What I Get Out Of Locking A Man In A Chastity Cage
January 2, 2019
WHAT IS A MALE CHASTITY DEVICE?
It’s a device worn around shaft and head of the penis – usually held in place by a testicle ring or a waist harness. Once on, the device is locked, and any form of erection become uncomfortable or impossible. There are even chastity cages with penis plugs for wife’s dominance.
WHY PEOPLE WEAR THEM
Most of the time, these toys are used in BDSM play – with some kind of power exchange taking place. In this case, the wearer (or submissive) is giving up their power to whoever is holding the key and making the decisions (the Dominant).
Reasons for being locked up can include:
SEXUAL TEASE AND DENIAL
One of the biggest influences with these kinds of toys is the tease and denial aspect. This tension increases exponentially knowing that there’s literally nothing you can do about it. You’re forced to savor the moment rather than racing to orgasm like most of us do.
A vanilla example would be sexting. You send a naughty message while you’re both at work and all you can do is smile, bite your lip, and wait to get home. A chastity cage is a physical object that does the same job (only stricter).
APPRECIATION OF SEXUAL RELEASE
Since you can’t have intercourse or masturbate while wearing a cage, taking it off and being allowed to experience pleasure, can make the following sex and orgasms far more intense (especially if your Dom/partner makes you wear one for a while).
INCREASED SEX DRIVE
Whether from humiliation, withdraw, or the feeling of doing something “naughty” or “taboo” (or the many other reasons), wearing one can sometimes increase arousal and all-around sex drive. Or, it can be as simple as wanting to try something new to spice or shake things up.
TRAINING OR BEHAVIOR CORRECTION
In BDSM dynamics, punishment, rewards, and withholding are a part of submissive training – training meant to encourage good behavior and discourage bad actions.
REMINDER OF OWNERSHIP
An extension of the D/s relationship and chastity play is having a physical device that represents the ownership and the control the Dominant has over their sub (their body and/or sexual pleasure) – in other words, “Your dick is mine and I’m locking it up.”
REMEMBER THE SSSC RULES
With any level of BDSM shenanigans, it’s important for both Doms and subs to play in a Safe, Sane, Sober, and Consensual way.
This includes using a Safe Word if you feel like there is something wrong. After, all it’s the Doms responsibility to ensure a fun, pleasurable, and/or growing experience in a safe environment.
EXAMPLE: You have to wear your device for a week and your Dom is out of town. There’s painful swelling (=physical danger) or a situation where being caught wearing the cage could result in real-life consequences (=emotional/life danger). Simple texting of your safe word with the reason should be enough for any Dom to grant immediate freedom from your device.